Danish Ettiquette Question

by Yael Cecilie

Hello FYI Denmark!
I Have a question about etiquette which I really need help with. First off I am a 25 year old Dane, but I tend to be socially awkward. The other day I was staying at my mother's. We were sitting together with my friends and my mother (a very kind and fun woman), who started meddling in me and my friend's relationship (we have agreed upon key words, so we do not feel ashamed to express him/her, because we already spoke about it). I told her it was between me and him and she should not interfere, when she continued I asked her to respect what I am telling her and stop it (perhaps my friend felt embarrassed her criticizing it!). When I talked with my brother about it he said I was childish and should not say anything contrary since I am in her home. He said that is the etiquette. Is that true? I am close with my mother and like any person you have a close relationship with you can tell them (almost) anything. EVEN in their own home (as long as it's not rude). I am open to any comment about this. If I am wrong then I will respect it, because I may disagree, but "When in Denmark do as the Danes." :)

Much, Yael Choleva.

Response:

Hi Yael,

Sorry but I have no idea what you are talking about - key words, meddling, what is your relationship? - if this is your mother, just talk to her. You are family -this has nothing to do with etiquette. Talk with your mother and figure this out.

P:S: I honestly can not figure out if your friend is someone you are just friends with or having an intimate relationship with or someone you are ashamed of - it is all written so cryptically and seems to have nothing to do with etiquette and more a problem you send to "Dr. Phil".

Charlie - Expat in Denmark